It’s almost time to go back to Abu Dhabi. Five more days.
It has been a lovely vacation, but I am ready to go back. I am tired of answering questions like “When are you moving back?” Or people telling me possible wedding dates and asking if I can fly across an ocean just for their special day. And I am so over the looks of confusion I get when I can’t outline my life trajectory. I’m sorry that my life isn’t planned into predictability and then back-up planned to avoid any ounce of uncertainty or unease.
Although really the most annoying thing is when I mention my Arab boyfriend and people ask, “What do your parents think?” The first reason it’s annoying is because it’s not “parents,’ it’s just my mom. So obviously the questioner doesn’t know me well enough to know anything about my family life. And yet he/she thinks it’s ok to imply that my family is racist?
Also, even if my mother was rude enough to express disapproval, why would that be worth talking about to anyone else? That would be a conversation between me and my family, not me and anyone else. Is the person asking the question really looking for a way to express their own disapproval? Or is it actually supposed to be normal to heavily weigh parents’ opinions? I haven’t cared what my family thinks since I moved across the country and went to college. They can talk to me about their opinions, obviously, but it would never be so important or impactful enough to warrant much thought beyond initial consideration.
Are other people really that tethered to their family’s opinions? I barely even consider what my mom thinks about me, let alone what other parents think about their kids. Why does that question keep coming up?